The story man - 讲故事的人

追寻佛陀的足迹

2010-04-17T17:37:00.003+08:00

刚从印度回来的时候，在这里写了英文版的印度朝圣之旅。

http://luhaiyuan.blogspot.com/2009_11_01_archive.html

现在在Cari论坛贴了华文版的朝圣之旅。

http://cforum1.cari.com.my/viewthread.php?tid=1883755&extra=page%3D2

Earth Hour

2010-03-06T01:05:00.000+08:00

种树

2010-02-28T18:39:00.005+08:00

星期六早上，一大早就起床，然后到Asia Jaya集合。为什么要在星期六一大早起床呢?因为要试试看自己亲自种树的滋味。毕竟这一生人，在办公室里一直用纸张，而纸是由大树而来，要回归一下大自然。

我们一伙人大概七点半出发，八点多就到了Raja Muda Peat Forest。我们在路旁停下车，报了名，还要走一段1.5公里的小路才到目的地。一路上风景怡人，这块地是沼泽地带，我们种的树也是红木林树的一种。

同行的朋友有Robin，Li，婕如和丽霞。我们和其他的Eco Warrior朋友们一起种树。首先就需要一些工具，例如Boots、手套还有铲子。

种树也很简单啦，挖一个洞，然后把小树种下去了就对了。有一个叫Lu的朋友，连铲子也不用，还充满热情的把小树带到最深远的地方，亲自用双手挖个洞，把树种下去。想必他心里一定是想为大自然做些什么吧。

这一天的天气还算不错了，不会太晒。但是，搬小树还有挖洞，就要弄到我汗流不止。主办当局还有提供饮料。我们大概种到十一点多，然后才离开。我们这班人种了两排树，一排大概五十棵，所以就大概种了一百棵树。希望小树快快长大，保护人类于与大自然。

星期六晚上的夜间活动

2010-02-07T22:51:00.003+08:00

耶！星期六晚上到了。大家通常有什么活动呢？我表姐通常会去夜店。哔，哔，哔，哔，哔！（音乐）而我呢？哈哈。在这孤单的城市，能有什么活动吗？

上个星期和这个星期我参加了克切拉香积厨的活动。基本上，他们为无家可归的流浪汉和吉隆坡市的贫民提供食物和基本的医疗服务。他们在星期六的晚上，和星期日下午会到吉隆坡市的各个角落派食物给无家可归的人。

在还没有加入义工团之前，我和Steven(我同事)要参加一个迎新活动，简单来讲就是讲解和介绍克切拉香积厨的这个组织，他们的活动，在分派食物要注意的事项等。

上个星期六，我在武吉免登一带派食物，一共派了十包。这些人都睡在街边，收到我们的食物后，他们都会感恩地说声谢谢。有些会说新年快乐。

这个星期六，就昨天，我们九点钟在克切拉的会所打包食物。我们把饼干，矿泉水和水果装进袋子里。我认识了一个老外，他是从澳洲雪梨过来的，在马来西亚也有好多年了。他的家人现在在澳洲。他的家人也曾经来马来西亚住，但还是回去了。我告诉他，他爱马来西亚多过他的家人。哈哈。他也笑了。我跟他讲，难道是为了nasi lemak？哈哈。他开玩笑说是云吞面。很可爱的人。

我们把食物打包上车后，就来念一段祈祷文。这段祈祷文也没有什么太过宗教的教导，只是一段祈福文。内容是这样的：

May all beings everywhere
Plagued by sufferings of body and mind
Obtain an ocean of happiness and joy
By virtue of my merits.

May no living creature suffer,
Commit evil or ever fall ill.
May no one be afraid or belittled,
With a mind weighed down by depression.

May the blind see forms,
And the deaf hear sounds.
May those whose bodies are worn with toil
Be restored on finding repose.

May the naked find clothing,
The hungry find food;
May the thirsty find water
And delicious drinks.

May the poor find wealth,
Those weak with sorrow find joy;
May the forlorn find hope,
Constant happiness and prosperity.

May there be timely rains
And bountiful harvests;
May all medicine be effective
And wholesome prayers bear fruit.

May all who are sick and ill
Quickly be freed from their ailments.
Whatever diseases there are in the world,
May they never occur again.

May the frightened cease to be afraid
And those bound be freed;
May the powerless find power
And may people think of benefiting each other.

祈祷后，我们就浩浩荡荡的出发了。我们首先在秋杰路集合然后再分头到不同的地方派食物。这次，我跟两个小伙子同队，一个叫Chris，刚从KDU毕业。另外一个叫紫盈（不懂是不是这样写）。两个都是每个星期六都来的。我跟他们到邮政局的总部底层。那边有大概30到50个流浪汉。我们这次除了派饭，还有派衣服和红包，因为下个星期过年，所以没有去派饭。

我们派到1点半就结束，然后还要等车回家，回到家都要2.45am了。哈哈。第二天睡到不省人事。

谦卑的神父

2010-01-27T21:45:00.004+08:00

什么是神父?就我的孤陋寡闻而言，就是神职人员，就像在电影里，梵蒂冈的教堂内，那些穿着神父衣服的人。但是，有时候在现实的生活中，往往跟电影会有某些差距的。

就上次到菲律宾的时候，我住在圣彼德教堂，认识了这位神父。人们都叫他汤尼神父。初次见面的时候，他就只是穿了件T-Shirt在开会，没有穿制服。我根本就认不出有什么神父在场。后来才知道他们在做弥撒的时候才穿制服的。

汤尼神父的为人很随和，没有架子，很容易和大伙儿打成一片。我们在菲律宾的那一段时期都相处得非常愉快。还记得有一次，另外一位神父从远处回来，他竟然很打趣地问那位神父：“你还是单身吗？”哇，我和Eddy两个人笑到不行。（天主教的神父是不可以结婚的。）汤尼神父真的是会搞笑。

神父不止为人随和，而且处处为人着想。记得又有一次，我们在外面吃饭，同桌的有一位是天主教，Eddy是基督教，而我就是佛教徒。当神父被要求祈祷的时候，他很快地：“In the Jesus name we pray, amen。”就解决了，哇，简直快到离谱。我猜也许是因为我在场，他考量到我不是天主教的关系吧。而且我在教堂的那一段期间，他也从来不曾跟我讲耶稣。他知道我是佛教徒，也不曾排挤或看不起我，而是完全地接受与尊重。而且还包吃包住，请吃请喝，让我有点宾至如归的感觉。当今世上有如此涵养的人，实在是少见。

与神父相处，会让人觉得他很平易近人。他圣彼德教堂服务也有四年多了，附近的居民都很喜欢他。他们都很喜欢他的服务。每个星期天，附近的居民都回来参加弥撒。神父也很敬业地把每一场弥撒做好。有些人问他，为什么不选做主教。神父说主教会涉及管理的问题，而他只想服务人群。

我想，也许是在神父的生命中，他有所体会，所以才会变得如此谦卑。愿神父过着平安快乐的生活。

善良的人

2010-01-10T13:44:00.005+08:00

Eddy是Mercy Malaysia的全职员工。他曾经是基督教的宣教组人员，到一些发展中国家去做义工，顺便去宣教。就这样他舍弃了自己的工作，后来加入了自愿组织，然后成为了全职的救援员工。

我们在菲律宾那次的任务中认识的，这次的任务都要听从他的指示。当然，我也是第一次搞到要出国这么大担的东西。Eddy处事非常谨慎，工作也非常认真。对于救援工作有很深入的了解，而且也非常有经验。我们一到现场，他就懂得要做什么，而且做事懂得分轻重。这使我们的工作进行得非常顺利。

他对同伴也很体谅，不会去勉强别人。帮助别人也懂得点到为止，就不去强求些什么。这也是我从他身上所学到的东西。在任务过程中，我总是担心这些，担心那些，总是担心事情会出错，或安排得不妥当。但是，结果总是出乎预料的，我担心的事情，都没有发生，而且都有朋友或其他义工的帮助，一切进行得很顺利。我也学到了只要尽了力就好，凡事不要太强求。还有，就是要做得开心。

他知道这份工作不容易，其中也度过了许多的辛酸。在巴基斯坦的寒冬里，见到被苍蝇包围的婴儿。在孟加拉看到一个不会向他微笑的孩子。还遇见过村民请求他，帮忙他们的村子。

当然，他也曾经遇到其它的好事。在巴基斯坦，有个女人从帐篷中伸出一包花生给他。在苏丹，有个在路边造泥砖女人向他微笑，因为他正要从远处拍照。还有在雅加达水灾的时候，有个女人奉献她的屋子当货仓，她微笑看着两千条毛巾的到来。

很多时候，他都遇到其他人伸出援手，奉献他们的善心、一顿饭、一个祷告、一个简单的‘谢谢、一个点头、不知从哪里冒出来的义工、一个团队来帮忙任务、一个承载、一个鼓励：告诉他，他做得不错、一个电邮看看他是否还活着。这些天使与祝福，让他觉得这一切都值得了。

个人觉得，在人生追求梦想的当中，总是难免会遇到挫折与失望的情况。但是，我们也要记得过程中我们得到的好。这样我们才能够继续走下去。谢谢了，Eddy兄。愿你幸福快乐。

老爸是个好人

2010-01-03T21:07:00.004+08:00

前几天听母亲说起这样的事：前些日子，父亲和母亲回去林明。在那边，他们遇见了赖雪莉的婆婆。婆婆还记得我父亲，还对他说：“你是阿Loke吧。你真是个好人。”真难得还有人会记得我父亲。后来又来了一个林明人。他也说父亲是个好人，因为父亲在林明工作的时候，经常帮助林明的矿工。

那时，母亲又问婆婆，那到底她有没有嫁错人。婆婆说：“没有。绝对是对的选择。”母亲在跟我叙述的时候，心里是感到安慰的。

都几十年了，别人还记得老爸的好，看来老爸也是个好人。

The River of Ganges

2009-12-10T20:42:00.010+08:00

6am, we left to Ganges river for site seeing. The bus stopped at the junction and we had to walk about 5 minutes to the river bank of the Ganges. The scenery of the sun rise at the river bank was so beautiful. The sun slowly rose up and the ray reflected in the river. The Hindus regarded the water of the Ganges as very holy. They used it for prayers and healing purposes.

We took a small boat and tour around the river. There were people bathing by the river bank. There were people approached our boats to sell souvenirs.

I lighted up a candle for Mr Lim, wish him and his family in peace and happy always. And for all living beings, may you all be well and happy.

There are also Ghats built by the ancient kings. The Ghats are basically a bay for the people to take bath. The kings built Ghats so that they can take bath conveniently in the Ganges.

There is also a cremation centre by the river. We are not allowed to take picture when we approached that place. Indeed death is inevitable to all human.

The Dhammapada quote this

Verse 288: Not sons, nor parents, nor close relatives can protect one assailed by Death; indeed, neither kith nor kin can give protection.

Verse 289: Knowing this, the wise man restrained by morality should quickly clear (the obstacles to) the Path leading to Nibbana.

Some Indian Sadhus...

Day 13

2009-12-04T20:28:00.011+08:00

18 Nov 2009 (Varanasi, Sarnath)

6am in the morning, we went to the Ganges river. I will post this one later. Let’s talk about pilgrimage first.

After the breakfast, we went to Sarnath, Isipatana or Deer Park. Firstly, we visited Mulagandha Kuty Vihara where the 5 ascestics met the Buddha. Then we took the 8 precepts here.

Not far away, there is statue where the Buddha preached the first sermon to the five ascetics.

After that, we visited Dharmarajika Stupa where the Buddha preached the first sermon – Dhammacakkapavathana Sutta! Which after this discourse, Venerable Kondanna attained the first fruition.

Then we arrived at the Dhamek Stupa where Buddha preached the second sermon, Anattalakkhana Sutta, hearing which all the 5 Ascetics attained Arahantship. We meditated here for a while and do some walking meditation. I also chanted Dhammacakkapavathana Sutta here. Chanted the Buddha first sermon at this place... Felt so good...

We also visited Mulagandhakuti, where Buddha spent the first rain retreat.

Pancayatana Temple, this site is the place where Buddha preached to the rich man Yasa.

The broken Asokan pillar with the lion capital on top of it.

Next, we visited the Sarnath Archeological Museum. In the museum, enshrines the Asoka Pillar with the Lion Capital on top of it. The four lion’s statues are standing back to back with each other and opening their mouth in a roaring posture. It represented the Buddha’s Dhamma is spreading to the four directions. The teaching of the deathless, for those who have listened, practiced it diligently, shall attain the deathless state of nibanna!

Basically, that’s all about my pilgrimage trip. The next 2 days will be my way back home to Malaysia…

Day 12

2009-12-03T20:50:00.007+08:00

17 Nov 2009 (Bodhgaya)

In the morning, I went to Maha Bodhi Temple to pay my last respect to the Buddha. We are leaving to Sarnath in the afternoon. It was a rainy day. I try to take as many photographs as I want. And I also collected some Bodhi leaves. I have to wait under the rain for the leaves to fall down. There are other who was waiting for the Bodhi leaves as well…

In the afternoon, we departed to Varanasi.

Day 11

2009-12-02T22:09:00.010+08:00

16 Nov 2009 (Bodhgaya)

About 4am in the morning, a few of us went to meditate in Maha Bodhi Temple. That’s a nice experience.

After breakfast, we prepared lunch dana for 70 monks from Magadha University.

In the afternoon we visited the temples around. There are Bhutanese Temple.

Japanese Temple.

Hugh Buddha Statue built by the Japanese.

Thai Temple.

Maha Bodhi Society

Tibetan Temple

At night, we meditated in the Maha Bodhi Temple. That was such a blissful and blessed sitting.

Day 10

2009-11-30T21:03:00.022+08:00

15 Nov 2009 (Bodhgaya)

This morning, we took a van and went to the cave where the Boddhisatta practiced austerities for 6 years. The cave was known as Dungeswari and it was very small. Outside the cave is a Tibetan Temple. We needed to walk up the small hill to reach that cave.

Then we visited Sujata Village. We went to Sujata Stupa and pay respect there. This was the place where Sujata offered the meal before the Boddhisatta attain enlightenment.

Next we stopped over at the place where a layman, Sotthiya offered a few bundles of Kusa grass to the Bodhisatta. Then Buddha placed the grass on his seat and made a strong resolution to attain the enlightenment.

We arrived at Maha Bodhi Temple. Buddha had spent 7 weeks in Bodhgaya after the supreme enlightenment.

The first week, Buddha attained enlightenment on the diamond throne, under the Bodhi Tree. Then Buddha reflect on the dependent origination, Paticca Samuppada.

The second week, Buddha stood grazing at the Bodhi Tree with unblinking eyes as a mark of gratitude to the Bodhi Tree which protect shelter for him during this period. This place is called Animisilocana Cetiya.

The third week, Buddha spent on walking meditation between the diamond throne and the Animisilocana Cetiya.

The fourth week, Buddha reflected on Abhidhamma and his body emitted rays of 6 colors after that.

The fifth week, Buddha sat under a Banyan tree and absorb in the bliss of Phalasamapatti (fruition of Arahantship). Then Buddha answered a question from a Brahmin.

The sixth week, Buddha was protected by Mucalinda, the serpent king of the lake. Mucanlinda used its coils to encircle Buddha’s body and covered the Buddha’s head with its hood. Because there was an untimely rainstorm and gloomed for seven days.

At the seventh week, Buddha moved to the Rajayatana tree. Buddha also absorbed into Arahantship bliss. And the two merchant brothers met the Buddha’s discourse, took the Two refuge in the Buddha and the Dhamma. Then they asked for object of worship, Buddha then gave them eight hairs and they returned to their native in Myanmar. The hair relics were later enshrine in the Shwedagon Pagoda in Yangon.

At night, Jason and I went to Maha Bodhi Temple. This time, I offered a light to the Buddha. This has been my wish for a long time, to offer a light to the Buddha, at the place of his enlightenment. Finally, my wish fulfilled. May I attain enlightenment too.

Day 9

2009-11-29T20:31:00.018+08:00

14 Nov 2009 (Rajgir – Bodhgaya)

This morning, we visited the Vaibhara Giri Hill in Rajgir, Sattapanni caves, where the first Sangha Council was held. On the way up to the hill, there was a cave which was previously stayed by Bhante Maha Kasappa and it was known as Pipphali House.

It took us almost half and hour to reach the Sattapanni caves where the first Sangha Council was held. Inside the cave, it was very narrow, and we can’t go further inside, it was blocked by stones. There is a Buddha statue and candles lighted.

We visited the Ajatasattu Stupa, which erected by King Ajasattu.

Next we went to Bamboo Grove, Veluvana Vihara which was presented by the King Bimbisara to the Buddha. It was the first Buddhist Monastry. We took the 8 precepts here.

Then we stopped by the Stupa where Buddha tamed the drunken elephant which released by Devadatta. It’s the battle between the elephants. And Buddha won with the power of loving kindness and the elephant bowed to the Buddha.

After that, we went to Bimbisara Jail where the King Bimbisara was jailed by his son, King Ajatasattu. Eventually King Bimbisara died in that prison.

Then we stopped by at the Mango Groved, Veluvana which was presented to the Buddha by the physician, Jivaka.

After lunch we visited the Vulture Peak, where the Buddha and his disciples often stayed there and meditated. The view on top of the mountain was just magnificent, great and peaceful. It gave a full view of the forest in Rajgir.

We arrived at Bodhgaya about 5pm. Then at night around 7.30pm, we walked to the Maha Bodhi Temple and took the 8 precepts inside the temple. That is the most beautiful temple that I have ever seen in my life. There were a lot of people chanting in this area. The Bodhi tree is situated behind the Maha Bodhi Temple, and the Diamond Throne is situated under the Bodhi Tree. I chanted the Buddha’s virtue, and then followed by ‘Anekajati’ verse. I was so happy. Finally I can chant it in the place where the Buddha attained the supreme enlightenment.

Day 8

2009-11-29T10:27:00.014+08:00

13 Nov 2009 (Patna – Rajgir)

This morning, we went to Hajipur and visited Ananda Stupa. We had to ride on a Tutut and it took us about 15 minutes to reach the site, because the road to the site is too narrow and unreachable by coach. Initially, there were 2 Ananda Stupa, but as the times goes by the river had changed it course and washed away one of the Stupa.

The Hindu temple was built on top of the Ananda Stupa. As we arrived, there were a lot of local people surrounded us and made us quite uncomfortable. Then we went into the Hindu temple and chanted the triple gem’s virtue. This is the place where the treasurer of Dhamma – Bhante Ananda, passed into nibanna.

After that, we stopped aside at Asokarama, where the 3rd Sangha was held. There is an Asoka Pillar in the garden.

In the afternoon, we went to visit the ruins of Nalanda. Nala means lotus or wisdom, da means knowledge. It was founded by Kumara Gupta at the 5th century, and it was renovated and upgraded in the 7th century and finally destroy at the 12th Century.

The Sariputta Stupa.

Later that, we went to Nava Nalanda and do dana.

Evening, we arrived at Rajgir and we stayed there overnight.

Day 7

2009-11-27T20:17:00.009+08:00

12 Nov 2009 (Kusinara – Patna)

Left Kusinara early in the morning, we passed by the river where Buddha took his last bath before he went to Kusinara. His body turned gold in color again after the bath.

Then we arrived at the Stupa where Cunda offered the last meal to the Buddha.

Next, we had lunch at the Zen restaurant. Then we arrived at Vesali. There were 5 incidents happened at Vesali, namely, the monkeys offered food to the Buddha and dug a pond for Buddha to take bath, The recitation of Ratana Sutta, the renunciation of Bhikkhuni, the announcement of Buddha’s Maha Parinibanna, and the 2nd Sangha Council.

After that, we visited the ancient Stupa of Vesali, where the Licchavis had a portion of Buddha’s relic and built a clay stupa. Then King Asoka was here and built another bigger stupa on top of it. Then the Stupa was enlarged again by the Gupta.

Finally, we crossed the Ganges river and arrived at Patna. It’s a very crowded and busy city with 10 million populations.

Day 6

2009-11-26T22:34:00.014+08:00

11 Nov 2009 (Lumbini – Kusinara)

Departed as early as 6.15am, we left Nepal and headed to Kusinara. There were hugh traffic jam at the border because there were lot’s of trucks coming in and out at the border.

We arrived at Kusinara about 11am, had lunch and proceeded to the memorial park where Buddha passed into Maha Parinibanna. At first, we do sitting meditation beside the Maha Parinibanna Temple. While I sat there, I reflected on the Buddha’s quality, Sugato, means well gone. As Buddha had passed into Parinibanna. I thought of Buddha, while he was still a Bodhisatta, he had worked so hard to accumulate all the 10 paramis, he had even scarified countless of lives, body, organs, and even his wife and children, just for the sake of Buddhahood. He had done so much for the living beings. And now, Buddha had reached his final destination, Parinibanna, the ever lasting peace. I felt so happy for the Buddha, and thank him for all he had done for us.

At the same time, I knew that my job hasn’t done yet. I still have to strive diligently for my own nibanna. Buddha’s last word came into my mind, ‘vayadhammā saṅkhārā appamādena sampādetha.’ Which means all things are subject to decay; strive on with diligent!

After meditating for half an hour, we went into the temple and paid respect to the Buddha by went round the reclining Buddha statue 3 times. Then we took some photographs.

Next we went to the Mahaparinibanna Stupa which marked the exact spot where the Buddha passed away, just behind the temple. Again, we went round the stupa 3 times. I reflected on the Buddha’s virtue.

After that, we did the offering at the Burmese Temple.

Then we visited Matha Kuar Shrine.

Lastly, we arrived at the cremation Stupa, where the citizen in Kusinara cremated Buddha’s body.

At the side of the Stupa is the Tiranawati river, where they washed Buddha’s body before they wrapped and cremated. We also walked round the Stupa 3 times. There were also Thai monks and lay people chanting the Buddha’s virtue. I found that I understand Pali, and we shared the same faith.

Day 5

2009-11-25T23:28:00.010+08:00

10 Nov 2009 (Lumbini)

Initially this morning we were going to Ramagama, but unfortunately we were stopped by the local military officer on the way. This was because there was a demonstration by the Maoist Terrorist and they had captured 19 buses yesterday. We were not willing to risk ourselves to be hijacked by the terrorist; therefore we decided to return to the hotel. In Ramagama, there is a Stupa guarded by the Naga. While Devadaha was the home for the Koliyans, the hometown for the Buddha’s mother. And we can’t visit Kapilavatthu as well because of the incident.

After an early lunch, we went to Lumbini, the birth place of the Buddha. We stopped at the entrance and we had to walk about 10 minutes to reach the site. In the Lumbini Garden, there is a Nepalese Temple, build by the Japanese. Inside the temple, there is a marker stone craved by King Asoka when he paid visit to this site. We lined up, knell down and paid respect in front of the marker stone. In my mind, I paid respect wholeheartedly.

And behind the temple, erected an Asoka Pillar, the word engraved on the pillar stated that this was the spot where the Buddha was born.

There is also a pond, a Bodhi tree. The air in the garden is fresh and it came with a cooling breeze. That’s really ceased all the discomfort, the pain and suffering in life… We had a photo session after that.

Then we went to another Nepalese Temple nearby and do the offering. Then I met up with Bhante Sagararama. Bhante is a friend of Bhante U Agganna. I must let Bhante U Agganna know as well.

At the end of the day, we visited Pandita Meditation Centre. That’s a nice place. Bhante in the centre taught us how to resolve conflict. How we can talk according to the Buddhism way. We must refrain from telling lies. No harsh speech. We can talk rightfully too.

At night, I got to know better a Nepalese friend, Pratik.

Day 4

2009-11-24T21:13:00.012+08:00

9 Nov 2009 (Savatthi – Lumbini)

As usual, we woke up about 5am, ate breakfast at 6am and departed to Jetavana Monastry at 7am. Firstly, we visited the Gandha Kuti, Buddha’s Perfumed Chamber. We bowed down and pay respect to the Buddha, took the three refuge, then we started to meditate about half an hour.

At the side of the Gandha Kuti is a well for Buddha use.

Near by is a Dhamma hall where Buddha met his disciples. All these were built again during Kusana Period (1st - 2nd century AD).

The park was so serene and beautiful after 2500 years. The weather is cooling too. I just want to say to the Buddha, “I am finally here.” But I think I am 2500 years too late. Buddha had passed in Maha Parinibanna. After that, we passed a pond where the monks used to take bath.

Then we visited Bhante Sivali Stupa, Bhante Maha Moggallana Stupa and Bhante Sariputta Stupa.

Next, we paid respect to Ananda Bodhi Tree by walking around the tree 3 rounds clockwise.

We also visited Sri Langkan Monastry and dana there, In that monastry, we took 3 refuge and 5 precepts. Beside us, was a group of Sri Lankan Pilgrims. They also chanted in Pali together with us. We chant in the same languague. How wonderful is that. We have never met before, but we shared the same faith and paid respect to the same teacher – the Buddha.

We arrived at the Sudatta Stupa, which was Anathapindika’s old resident. Sudatta is Anathapindika’s real name. And opposite is Angulimala Stupa.

After that, we went to a place it’s believed that Devadatta was swollen by the earth, just behind the swamp.

Then we went up to a hill where Buddha performed the twin miracle, and ascended up to the Tavatimsa Heaven and preached Arbhidhamma to his mother and all the other deities.

After that, we went to Lumbini. Crossed the border into Nepal and spent the night there.

Day 3

2009-11-22T21:05:00.006+08:00

8 Nov 09 (Sankasia - Savatthi)

In the morning about 7am, we went to the place where Buddha decended from heaven. Our bus arrived at the foot of the small hill, then we climbed up the hill like Stupa. Facing east, we sat down on the pre-prepared carpet. We chanted the virtue of the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha. Then follow by Metta Sutta. After that, we sat down and meditate. I concentrate on the virtue of the Buddha and did my Buddhanusati. The scenery on top on the hill was beautiful, calm and serene, a little mist with the morning sunlight.

Next we went down the hill and took photos around. There was a Asoka Pillar with an elephant figure on it. The elephant represent the white elephant in Maya, Buddha’s mother’s dream, the night when she conceived the Boddhisatta in her womb.

We left Sankasia about 8.15am, and arrived at Savatthi at night, stayed in Nikko Lotus Hotel. Comfortable hotel with bath tub and hot water, at last!

Pilgrimage Trip - Day 1 & Day 2

2009-11-21T23:44:00.007+08:00

6 Nov 09 (KL – Delhi)
There were 28 people in the group, we left KL, transit in Bangkok and arrived at Delhi about 11.30pm. We stayed overnight at Hotel Central Plaza.

7 Nov 09 (Delhi – Sankasia)
Woke up at 5.30am, breakfast at 6am, we left hotel around 7am. Arrived at Mathura about 11am, had lunch in a hotel. This is a pilgrim place for the Hindus. This is the place where the God, Krishna and his wife had lived.

We continued the journey, and arrived at Sankasia, Sri Lankan Temple at night. We offered the robes to the monks and handed over the money to the Kappiya. Then the monks chant the virtues of the Buddha, Dhamma and Sangha, followed by Metta Sutta and blessings. Quite happy to heard chanting of sutta in Buddha’s Majjhima Desa – the middle country, where the Buddha preached the Dhamma.

Then we arrived at Burmese Temple, Sayadaw U Nanda is the abbot of this temple. He has been living in India for 35 years, the past 4 years in Sankasia.

The story in Sankasia. Buddha departed from Savatthi to heaven to preached his mother and the devas in Arbhidhamma. Everyday, we took his meal at Himalaya with Sariputta and preach to Bhante Sariputta. Then the people at Savatthi wondered when Buddha will descend from heaven, then Bhante Maha Mongallana went up to heaven and asked the Buddha. The Buddha told them at Sanakasia. Then the people from Savatthi walked 7 days (30 yogana = 400km) to arrive Sankasia and see the Buddha performed the physic power and descend from heaven. When the Buddha descended from heaven, the Sakka was on the right side with golden latter and Brahma on the left with silver latter and held an white umbrella.

明天走了

2009-11-06T01:15:00.001+08:00

如果今天是人生的尽头，我躺在临死的病床上。我会后悔没有做些什么吗？有舍不得的人吗？对社会有贡献吗？在工作上对得起老板和同事吗？最后一个问题：我的人生过得有意义吗？可以闭上眼睛了吗？我想：我一定很想说：我一切都办好了，我要走了。

记得六年级的那一次毕业旅行，过程非常愉快。虽然也不是去那里，只是去海边玩玩而已。大家都玩得很开心。回来后时常还想去。但是，小小的心灵告诉我自己说，那是不可能的。过去的东西不会再回来。小时候就有这么认为。知道该放下的，都要放下，该走的都要走。

小时候，母亲会带我去基督教教会。有一次唱圣歌的时候，也会无端端流泪。牧师认为我很有潜质，被神感动了什么似的。当然，年小的我也不当一回事。

长大了，又让我遇到了一个又一个的善知识。谢谢他们一路以来的指引，支持，鼓励，我才找到了自己。认识了自己，知道生命到底是怎么一回事。在后面指引我们的，我们共同的老师，就是佛陀本人。

那佛陀到底是什么来的？那个天主教的女孩这么问我的时候，我真的不懂得怎么回答。他是神吗？他是先知prophet吗？答案都不是。只能说佛陀是个证悟的人，解脱了一切烦恼，脱离贪、嗔、痴的人。永远不再受轮回之苦。

那真的有人会没有烦恼吗？有人真的可以没有贪、嗔、痴，那会不会变成没有情绪，冷冷冰冰，不懂得思考之类的？答案是不会的。佛陀不是这样的人，反而是充满了智慧与慈悲。那佛陀在菩提树下到底证悟了些什么？内容是什么？怎样才不必再轮回？

就在大约两千五百年前的那一天，佛陀证悟后，心里非常的欢喜，就在心里念了这一句偈颂：

經多生輪迴，尋求造屋者。但未得見之，痛苦再再生。
已見造屋者，！不再造於屋，椽桷皆毀壞，棟梁亦摧折。
我既證無為，一切愛盡滅。

佛陀形容此屋子是身体，造屋者是贪爱，柱子是烦恼，栋梁是无名。佛陀见到物体与精神体，都是在不断的生起与熄灭，没有恒常不变的物体与精神体。因此，不会再对自己与他人生起贪爱之心。虽然，感受还是有的，但他只知道乐受与苦受，并没有烦恼的生起。不知道这样讲对不对，因为自己也还没有体证。

明天就要出发了，回到自己精神的故乡。自己也很想证明佛陀是否真的存在。看看那些地方。在经典里，佛陀曾经提过：

There are four places, Ananda, that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence. What are the four?

"'Here the Tathagata was born!'This, Ananda, is a place that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence.

"'Here the Tathagata became fully enlightened in unsurpassed, supreme Enlightenment!'This, Ananda, is a place that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence.

"'Here the Tathagata set rolling the unexcelled Wheel of the Dhamma!'This, Ananda, is a place that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence.
"'Here the Tathagata passed away into the state of Nibbana in which no element of clinging remains!' This, Ananda, is a place that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence.

"These, Ananda, are the four places that a pious person should visit and look upon with feelings of reverence. And truly there will come to these places, Ananda, pious bhikkhus and bhikkhunis, laymen and laywomen, reflecting: 'Here the Tathagata was born! Here the Tathagata became fully enlightened in unsurpassed, supreme Enlightenment! Here the Tathagata set rolling the unexcelled Wheel of the Dhamma! Here the Tathagata passed away into the state of Nibbana in which no element of clinging remains!'

"And whoever, Ananda, should die on such a pilgrimage with his heart established in faith, at the breaking up of the body, after death, will be reborn in a realm of heavenly happiness."

Some of my thoughts...

2009-10-18T22:47:00.015+08:00

In this blog post, I would like to share some of my thoughts and feelings of my encounter in Manila.

Religion
Firstly, Catholic is a total foreign religion to me. I don’t have any catholic friends or priest that I known. Eddy Hew is a Christian, and I am a Buddhist, and we stay in a Catholic Church. This is the first joke, what a wire combination. Of course, before that I were told that Catholic was very conservative. But for this 2 weeks, I have learnt that Catholic are not conservative as I was told. In fact they are very open minded, kind and nice people. Fr Tony is a very kind and humble person. He is very considerate as well. For he knew that I am a Buddhist, he prayed very short during the meal. Just a sentence and its done. And never did he try to convert me into Catholic. This really makes my stay very comfortable. Thanks again. And I have this wonderful experience to attend the first mass in my life, and it was in Tagalog.

The People in Philippines
Basically and generally they are very happy and positive people. You will definitely hear a joke everyday. At least I will hear a joke everyday, and I really enjoy the laughter and the fun with all my friends here. The Philippinos are very humor. They can joke about anything and anytime. Even during bad times, like flood. Carla said that people still can joke even the water was at their chest level! In addition, they are very nice towards the guest, they appreciate the friendship, and they are very people oriented. I feel like I am the least people oriented in the team… Thanks to Shernan again for reminding me to smile. Have not done that in quite a while.

The rich and the poor
I have been to the place where the people with less income lived. And I have visited Makati, Megamall and Mall of Asia. This I have witnesses the wealth disparity of the rich and the poor. The worse affected people by the flood are always the poor people and rich people always can recover very fast from their loss. What I can do for them is very limited and the impact is so minimal. The people in the urban area are continuing with their life, go to work as usual. While some of the poor people are still staying in the evacuation centers. Just hope that people lives can be improve one day and the wealth should be share more evenly.

The kind people
Firstly, I must commend on Ms Carla and all the volunteers for their persistence and untiring effort in packing the Hygiene Kits. They managed to pack all the 5000 Hygiene Kits in 3 days time! Saturday, Sunday and Tuesday. I am quite tire on Saturday and Sunday, sitting there watching them packing. I can see that the volunteers had demonstrated the selfless effort when they were carrying the heavy stuff and their speed in packing the Hygiene Kits. I know that they are here really to help. They might have felt the impact of the flood and the impact to the people. I think that’s their motivation. Thanks again. You all have taught me a great lesson.

I also must commend Ms Cel and her staff for their help during the purchasing of all the Hygiene Kits items. Ms Cel had helped us so much. And when we thank her, she just said, ‘This is the least I can do.’ She is just so kind and humble. Thanks again.

For Fr. Tony, thanks for risking your life to go to the bank and withdraw such a big amount of cash. Thanks again for the shelter and food. Many thanks.

For Annalyn and Catherine, thanks for helping us in purchasing the stuffs at Divisoria. That’s real tiring. Thanks for your effort.

For all the kind people in Philippines, I know why Ninoy Aquino said, ‘Filipino is worth dying for.’
Kids
I have met some kids during this journey. Basically they like to pose in front of camera. Whenever I aim my camera at them, they will pose for me. During the flood, some of them had to swim for their lives, where they climb up the trees and roofs. They hope that the flood will never happen again. I share the same hope with them. Hope that it will never happen again.

Relief Mission

2009-10-17T21:28:00.021+08:00

This blog post has to be written in English. This is because I would like to dedicate this post to all my friends in St Peter Parish.

26 Sep 09
Typhoon Ondoy hit Philippines, brought heavy rains and flooded Metro Manila and nearby area.

28 Sep 09
8.00pm, night market, SS2
I received a phone call from Ms Hayat, staff from Mercy Malaysia. She asked me if I would like to volunteer myself to the mission in Philippines. I have to give my answer by noon tomorrow.

29 Sep 09
10.45am, SKM head office in Asia
I applied leave from my boss, dear Michael Lee. He is a very kind person. I told him about the mission and would like to apply leave from him. He said that he will consider it for half an hour and will get back to me. While I am waiting anxiously, Ms Hayat called again and asked if I would like to go, if not then she will put me on the waiting list. 11.15am, Michael agree to let me go with the consent of other colleagues that they will not take any leave during this period.

6.30pm, Mercy Head Office
I was introduced to Mr Eddie Hew, Senior Program Officer. I had a meeting with Hayat and Hew, was told what to prepared, expectation of me and etc. Mr Shaharudin, the acting GM of Mercy Malaysia met up with me too and he asked if I knew how to swim…

8.30pm, Kelana Jaya Medical Centre
I took the vaccination of Typhoid and Hepatitis A. I had taken tetanus during a bike accident occur at the end of August. Total vaccination fee is RM160 ++, from my own pocket. And got to know that the vaccination will only take effect after 1 or 2 weeks…
12pm pack my stuff… slept at 2am.

30 Sep 09
6.45am KL Sentral
Met up with Hew and we proceeded to KLIA. We caught the flight at 10.20am.

2.30pm
We arrived at Manila airport, terminal 1. We were welcome and greeted by Ambassador of Malaysia Mr Haji Rosli.

1 Oct 09
We visited ABS-CBN, the tv station for Philippines. In the afternoon, we dropped by Veritas Radio Station and send a box of water purification tablets to them.

2 Oct 09
In the morning, Mr Ren Ren, our driver, drove Hew and I to visit the site. Firstly, we arrived at Fairview Riverside. Although I was so astonished to see the devastating area, I just have to take out the camera from my pouch and start taking photos. As I have told myself to remain calm for whatever scene or situation that I will encounter. Mr Hew was talking to his boss, Said on the phone.
Next, we went to Bagong Silangan, one of the most affected area in the Quezon City. Ms Mayan, social worker and Mr Angelbert, public school teacher brought us around the place. There were little caskets in the evacuation centre, people just remained calm.
There were a lot of houses destroyed by the flood. People were cleaning up their houses and cloths.

3 Oct 09
We visited another affected area in Santa Lucia. The meeting point of a creek and Tuliahan river.

This is an elementary school in Santa Lucia. There were total of 200 families in this school and average of 9 families in a classroom.

4 Oct 09
We visited Divisoria, the wholesale market in Metro Manila. The place was very crowded and of course the prices of the goods are cheap. Thanks to Catherine, Annalyn and Eric, who helped us so much throughout the entire journey. We have brought 100 sets of Hygiene Kits which consist of towels, toothbrush, tooth paste, soap, laundry soap, shampoo, slippers, panties, sanitary pads and combs.

5 – 6 Oct 09
We went to Ms Cel’s office. She has been extremely helpful to us, where Cel and her staff, Airene helped us to order the 5000 sets of Hygiene Kits.

Then the next day, we started to receive all the items in the Hygiene Kits.

7 Oct 09
5.58am, Hew and I were woke up by a call, the 5000 buckets were here in St Peter Parish. Half awake, we went out and helped to carry the heavy buckets down the stairs to a lower floor in the church. The buckets came 40 in a stack; it was really exhausting to bring them down the stair case…

At 3.30pm, we arrived at Bagong Silangan. We distributed the first 100 Hygiene Kits to the people in San Isidro Laborador Parish. Before the distribution, Mr Hew will tell the people about Hygine, to wash the hands before eating, and we sang happy birthday song to estimate the length of hand washing. After that, there was a psycho social activity for the people, where they sit in groups and share their experience. After that, we distributed the Hygiene Kits and left.

8 – 9 Oct 09
The items for the Hygiene Kits continue to arrive at St Peter Parish. Thanks to Ms Cel and all her staff who have helped us in the logistics. The slippers for kids were the last to arrive. It was about 10.30pm on the Friday night.

10 Oct 09
So great to see someone who is so familiar, someone I have known for 2 years, Ms Carla and our colleagues in Manila office came and helped out in packing of Hygiene Kits. Ms Carla helped to organize the whole packing process, brief the volunteers how to pack, how many to pack etc.

In the afternoon, we distributed another 100 Hygiene Kits in Santa Lucia.

11 Oct 09
Thanks to Carla again for bringing me to shop for souvenirs and buying me lunch. In the afternoon, we continue to pack the Hygiene Kits. In 2 days time, we managed to pack 2700 Hygiene Kits.

12 Oct 09
We had lunch with Cel and friends. At night, we had farewell dinner for me. Fr Tony said that it’s a tradition to have a nice dinner for farewell. This is to make sure that I go back tomorrow. Lols…

13 Oct 09
In the morning, we distributed 140 Hygiene Kits at Bagong Silangan. After that, I said good bye to my dear friends in St Peter Parish. Shernan, Ac, Jollibee, Jade, Margie, Annalyn, Liza and Roselle, thanks for the hospitality and friendship that you have given. Really appreciate it.

红木林

2009-09-28T21:48:00.013+08:00

上个周末参加同学的婚礼，回到了浮罗交怡 - 即让我熟悉又陌生的地方。熟悉是因为曾经在这里生活过好一段日子；陌生是因为它变了许多。改变总是容易让人觉得不安。

婚宴后的第二天，小雪姐姐带我们几个朋友一起到Kilim Geoforest Park。我们吃完午饭或早饭后，就来到了这个地方。基本上这是一个红木树林，沼泽地带。首先，我们来到了码头，买了票就上船。因为我们是当地人，所以比较便宜。哈哈。没有啦，因为小雪的老爸认识人。

这次的红木树林的旅游有四个景点，那就是蝙蝠洞、鳄鱼洞、鱼塘、还有喂老鹰。首先，来到了蝙蝠洞，基本上没什么特别，就是一个洞，里面有很多蝙蝠。没看过蝙蝠的人值得一游。

接下来就是去鱼塘，鱼塘里有很多不同种类的沼泽地带的鱼类。当然，还有一些深海里的大鱼。在沼泽地带有一种鱼很特别，它可以喷水，把昆虫击倒跌在水面，然后就吃掉它。这种鱼还可以跳跃，吃到水面上的虫。我们以面包代替虫来喂鱼。我们把面包放在鱼塘边的木板上，小鱼可以很准确地把面包击落，跌入水里。由于雪小姐的衣服也是白色的，所以也被当成是面包，中了一炮。

小鱼也可以跳出水面，吃到面包。

有各种各样的鱼类和海洋生物。

一路上，凉风习习，天空有几朵乌云盖着，不会太晒，刚刚好。船长把船开得有时快，又有时慢，很会配合节奏。开快的时候，就很大风，再配合新鲜的空气，令人精神爽朗。开得慢的时候，就有点像在湖边开着浪漫的小船，让人心情放松。

接下来我们去另一站，就是鳄鱼洞。以前曾经有鳄鱼住在那里，后来被残忍的人类枪决了。

过后，我们来到了喂老鹰的地点。从远处就见到很多老鹰在空中盘旋。小船转了个弯，就来到了那个地方。人们把鸡皮丢到水面上，然后老鹰们就一直从空中降下来吃。看着空中的老鹰，那数目实在是太多了，第一次看到这么多老鹰，在这个岛上呆了这么多年，都没看过这么多老鹰，估计有五十几或以上吧。但是老鹰不会太大只，还好。但是还是很开心。

接下来我们就出海。看看青色的大海，还有蔚蓝的天空。

最后，又回到了码头，在那里有一个特点，就是有游泳的猴子。我把花生丢下水了，他们就游泳过去拿来吃。真是有点神奇，还有会游泳的猴子，而且也真的很可爱。

最后总结一下，90分。不错。很好玩。还有，谢谢好朋友们的陪伴。还有小雪的热情地招待，和阿风的临时导游。谢谢大家。

天使与魔鬼

2009-08-11T21:22:00.006+08:00

话说二十八年前的某天某日某时，在马来西亚东海岸的一个小镇上的某间小诊所里，有一个婴儿出生了。出生的时候，是农历七月，鬼节。结果害到这个婴儿的妈妈提心吊胆地在小诊所里过夜。而这个婴儿的出生，到底意味着什么呢？他会为这个世界带来怎样的灾害呢？哇哈哈哈。

首先，一出世就要吓他老妈子一餐。接下来，老妈子为了要照顾他，辞去自己很喜欢的工作。然后，还要老豆供他衣食住行，老妈照顾他吃饭拉屎。深怕他天资愚蠢，老妈子在她五岁那一年就教他背乘法表，由二开始。“一二二、二二四”还好这小子也不差，老妈子心里也有点放心。

老爸为了撑起这头家，也选了一份自己不怎样喜欢的工作，但也养活了这小子，而这小子也不曾有过饿肚子的经验。老妈子就一直督促这小子的学业，深怕他考不好，结果就花钱送他去补习。

当然，这小子随着时间过去，也慢慢长大，迈入青春期，而且也同时迈入叛逆期。这时候，在鬼节出生的小子真的变成鬼，什么花样都来，搞到两个老人家头疼不已。后来，一直到大学才开始懂事，魔鬼也渐渐因为成长了、经历过了、痛过了，最后才慢慢变成个人样。

后来他工作了，遇到的挫折与失败简直就是加倍。他学习到痛是人生必须经历的感觉，而且每个存在的生命都免不了痛苦。他开始知道世界上有很多人没饭吃，饿肚子去世的，同时他觉得自己很幸运，为了表达这份情感，他参加了当时世界宣明会主办的饥饿三十。当时他希望，可以为这个世界改变些什么。最后，他也想变成天使。

一个人旅行的快乐

2009-08-08T00:00:00.022+08:00

去悉尼旅行回来已经一年之久了。在最后一个星期的周末，我自己一个人走过著名悉尼大桥。我住的公寓靠近地铁站，早上自己坐上火车，到了靠近大桥的那个站就下车。

一下车，发现附近有一个早市场。那里有卖很多各种各样的东西，当然非常地多元化与国际化。我选了一档土耳其的食物，那个面包有点像我们的roti canai，里面有一点菜，还有配上柠檬，感觉很特别。我就坐在草地上吃了起来。去到那边就发现当地人喜欢坐在草地上，吃东西、谈天之类的。而且就算是中午十二点也可以，因为天气非常凉爽。

吃完我的早餐，就到市场走走，有很多很可爱的东西，有衣服之类的。还有就是这位卖中国茶的外国人。他请我喝了一杯，还用跟我说，这是乌龙茶。人在异乡有杯茶喝果然是不同。

接下来开始踏上悉尼桥了。

这座大桥有十个道路，其中六条是来回的车辆，两条是给火车，还有两条是个行人和脚踏车。我一个人走，一路上有很多人，多数是来跑步运动的，还有就是像我这种来旅行的。

悉尼大桥对面就是剧场了。

桥中间还有一座纪念牌，纪念在这里殉职的建筑工人。

走过这道大桥大概需要半小时的时间。过后，再多十到十五分钟，就来到剧场了。这里每一张拍的照片，都是要求别人帮我拍的，因为毕竟是自己旅行。帮我拍过照片的有马来西亚人，Tasmania人，中国人和当地的澳洲人。

这是一位马来西亚的小妹妹啦。

靠近码头的地方就是有很多海鸥。他们飞翔与降落的样子都很好看。

剧院的旁边有一座植物公园。有一群小朋友在小山坡上滚下来，滚下来后又继续再滚。还有双人的，手牵手一起滚。真可爱。

还有一个老爸牵着他孩子的手把他甩得得高高的，另外两个孩子又要。

还有另外一个小女孩，她在追一只鸟，我要拍她的时候，她也不吝啬或害羞地望向镜头。

在植物公园走了一争子，然后参观艺术馆。

晚上回到唐人街。

附近还有一位阿伯头顶上顶着一把吉他手里也拿着吉他，一边弹一边唱，头顶上的吉他还不会掉下来。

为什么要结婚？

2009-07-24T20:53:00.002+08:00

上个周末，参加了另外一个朋友的婚礼。这里不能够讲任何名字，因为他们都是很神秘的人。星期六一早，我就和A君到霹雳州的某个小镇。到了那边就和某位朋友吃饭。饭后，我们就到酒店休息。

到了酒店，我们被通知要和另外两个人公私房间。我们要了钥匙，然后就到房间。我按了门铃却没人应门。我用钥匙打开房门，却看到一双男人的鞋子，还有一双女人的鞋子。我和A君担心他们是夫妻，所以就关门，不好意思打扰。后来，下了楼下又上来，那位男人才醒来。原来他们不是夫妻。他们是我们的学长。当然，大我们好几辈，所以没见过。男生是我们的某届主席。女生则是我的学姐，而且还是同一科系，同一个主修。她那时候是这个主修的第二届。哇，如果我是妖怪的话，那她应该是千年什么什么了。实在是大我好几届。

大家在房间里，第一次见面难免要互相认识，找一些话题。讲一些有的没的。后来当然还有讲到这位结婚的朋友。至于内容是什么呢？为了要保护当事人的私隐和他独有的版权，这里也不谈了。

第二天，在车上，A君问了一个问题：“为什么要结婚呢？”坐在我们前面的那两位学长突然没有回答，因为他们两个都结婚了，而且有孩子了。然后学姐就问：“那你以前有没有女朋友？”说真的我也不知道A君以前有没有交往过女友。A君当然死都不说了。后来，这问题就不了了之。

至于为什么人要结婚呢？要生育下一代？无聊没事做？生活苦闷？老来有个伴？也许大家的答案都不一样吧。我们吃了午餐，买了手信，就驾车离开了。

婚礼

2009-05-31T23:22:00.004+08:00

由于最近这几年很多身边的朋友都开始结婚了，单单这个月就被炸两次。看来年尾也许会更多一些。因此，这个严重的问题很快地就烧过来。

以前还有个借口，说：“张国荣也是还没有女朋友。”但是这个借口不管用了。因为去年的某某日开始，他就结束了单身的生活，从此停留在人生最美丽的风景。为什么说他停留在人生最美丽的风景呢？因为他写了最后一篇部落格后，以后都没有看见他再写了，而那篇文章就是人生最美丽的风景。 http://t0ma.blogspot.com/

接下来森美也传来了喜讯，那也是在Facebook看到照片才发现的。他和爱人去了浮罗交怡旅行。那如果你问我人生最美丽的夕阳在哪里，那肯定是浮罗交怡的海边。为什么我会如此说呢？到底那边的夕阳有什么特别呢？当然有，用语言来形容就是，黄昏将近，蓝色的天空，渐渐地被染上红色与橙色。一片天空可以有多种颜色。最后天色渐暗，剩下黑色与深橙色，还有红色的太阳。啊，多美丽的风景。人生可以看几次呢？

今天刚刚参加了朋友的婚礼。只感觉到了隆重而简单。隆重是因为地点的关系，简单是因为她安排的方式吧。从请帖到婚礼的进行，甚至拍的婚纱照。她和丈夫没有去摄影馆拍一些很做作的照片，只是到公园里，请她的摄影朋友为他们拍几张，晚上婚宴的时候播放出来。婚礼，其实也可以很简单。

婚礼当中，女方的父亲被要求上台演讲，然后对于婚姻给一些意见。他说，可以参考这一期的Reader Digest，里面有很多Quotes。他还说：“婚姻是两个原谅者的事情。Forgiver and forgiver。”两个人果然是要时常原谅对方。他还补充：“It’s about falling in love again and again。”停顿：“with the same person。”哈哈。这句有点搞笑，但是又如此真实。不能够第一次爱上一个人，就能成就一生的婚姻，也不能够半途而废，突然爱上其他人，而是不断地爱上同一个人。哦。原来是这样，真的是有点难。哈哈。

地球一小时

2009-03-27T22:00:00.003+08:00

明天就是所谓的Earth Hour-地球一小时。今天中午，我们公司举办了一场小型的短片播放会。播放的短片都是关于全球暖化问题，以及提高大家对与环保的意识。由于我们的公司是澳洲公司，所以对环保的意识特别强，很注重环保与再循环。对于如何减低对环境污染以及如何与整体大环境共存这些课题，都下了一番功夫。我们接手的工程，都非常讲究环保这项课题。这也使我们公司在客户群中，建立了好名声，当然更主要的还是能够贡献与环保运动。就像是Carbon Footprint，我们公司也会计算了一年以内，公司所排出的二氧化碳。然后公司就会捐一笔钱给一个种树的志愿团体，以种植树木的氧气来弥补我们公司所排出的二氧化碳。对于公司这种爱护环境的举动，在下实在是佩服。

好了，关于地球一小时这个活动，基本上是起源于澳洲的雪梨这个城市。这个活动在2007年第一次举办，他们关上了雪梨大剧院和雪梨大桥这两个主要的地标。而为什么要选地标呢？因为地标很明显，受大家的注目，所以比较容易引起人们的注意。而这样的活动到底能够带出些什么意义呢？

相信大家都知道关于地球暖化这个课题。而且近年来无论电影、广告或其他大众传媒都有报道相关的新闻。其中就包括了北极冰的溶解，各种天灾，包括最近的墨尔本森林大火、世界各地的水灾、旱灾、风灾，全部都跟世界暖化扯上关系。至于什么是全球暖化呢？由于我的科学一路以来都不是很好，简单来讲就是释放过多的二氧化碳在大气层中，导致紫外线被困在大气层中。这样，地球的温度继续升高。

就北极而言，冰雪融化的情况近年来日益严重。融化的冰雪导致更多的海水流入海洋中。这样不但导致世界各地发生水灾，最后更严重的，可能导致整个生态环境的失衡，许多动植物的绝种，以及更多人命的伤亡。第一个受影响的动物当然就是北极熊。根据调查，它们的体重近年来明显地下降，大家可以见到短片中的北极熊跟我们熟悉胖嘟嘟的北极熊是有很大的差别。他们不但面对捕抓食物的问题，而且还有繁殖的问题也严重受影响。

然而，在我们的日常生活中，我们并没有看到北极熊，冰雪融化也很远，就算天灾来的时候很多人会一起死，就不必担心，所以就继续过活？所谓被火烧到才知痛。其实世界各地的人们都感受到了全球暖化的问题。就算我骑电单车，手背上也被太阳晒到红，然后脱皮。果然是厉害。

无论如何，还是有人漠不关心，有些人认为关灯一小时，最后也导致经济效应，有些餐馆可能会推出地球日蜡烛晚餐之类的，最后只是鼓励消费。有些人更认为，哎呀，关灯一小时能够省下多少电？过后开灯也是一样消耗电能啊。其实，关灯一小时的运动，目的是在于让群众醒觉全球暖化的问题，然后看看我们是否能够以其他方式来继续我们的生活。是否能够减少对大自然的伤害，是否能够更加节省能源。这种醒觉运动才是长远的、深入的，而且提醒大家在日常生活中，都时常保持一种环保的意识。

最后，要跟大家分享这部短片。希望地球的明天会更好。大家一起努力吧。

最可爱的弟弟

2009-03-24T21:21:00.010+08:00

首先，要介绍这个月的寿星。我最小的弟弟 – 陆海欣。他出生于我六岁的那一年。这家伙从小到大都很可爱。那他怎么可爱呢？接下来就要一一介绍。

第一个要讲的是，从小到大，他最喜欢玩的一样东西 – 枕头。记得小时候我最喜欢抢他的枕头，然后他就会来追我，要回他的小枕头。真是可爱极了。后来，他就喜欢转枕头。他可以用手指转枕头，一直转都不会掉下来，厉害吧！这就是他的绝招之一。也许是喜欢睡觉，所以很喜欢枕头吧。

再来，就是讲他的音乐与舞蹈的天分。记得在浮罗交怡的时候，他幼稚园毕业，那时候幼稚园老师就选他合唱团的指挥官。他穿了一身西装，梳了很整齐的头发，在台上跟着音乐的节奏，指指点点，他的同学们也跟着指挥吹奏乐曲。陆弟弟不止可爱，还有型极了。在场的父母亲也一定很感动吧。

后来长大了，这家伙更是跟他的一群朋友们创作一些可爱的舞蹈。第一次看的时候，差点笑到我趴地。原来是Ultraman舞蹈。歌曲是黎明唱的。哇，超搞笑，果然有幽默的细胞。而且从小到大都有在进步，在发掘自己的潜能。不错，加油。

除了有幽默的细胞、很会搞笑，他也很爱看漫画。有时也来个人创作，就像以下的这几幅画。

在他的宿舍，无聊的时候。

在车站等他的大哥来载他，有点不耐烦。

要出去游玩的时候。

看到美女 - Orange的时候。

接下来，就是要讲这个人的学业。在他中六的时候，他两个哥哥都已经考上大学了，所以有少少压力。但是，担心是多余的，他的数学跟科学这两科早已经超越他两个哥哥了。成绩放榜的时候，还算过得去。而且上大学的时候，还选了自己最喜欢的一科-海洋学。

至于什么是海洋学呢？毕业后有什么出路的啊？这个问题要交回给我弟弟自己回答了。当然，我们兄弟的名字都有一个‘海’字。就只有他念的科系跟我们的名字有关。以后找工作的时候，要记得当初的理想。别辜负了自己的名字，加油！

弟弟的部落格里，除了有很多他自己创作的照片。还有很多关于他去Field Trip的报导，还有他大学生活的点点滴滴。可观性非常高，值得一游。http://blog.xuite.net/st4rfish/coralheart

最后，要打广告，由于我弟弟还单身，所以有兴趣的美女可以直接到他的部落格留言。以下的照片，证明我弟弟到处‘放电’。搞笑得来又不失风度的一件衣服。

弟弟的生日就快要到了，这里祝你生日快乐。明年的情人节不要再见到你了。哈哈。

北海、怡保与巴生一游

2009-03-16T21:21:00.011+08:00

上个周末，要帮忙我天真无邪的弟弟搬家。所以就星期五放工后，到巴生去接他，然后上北海。由于驾车有点累，所以在休息站过了一夜。

第二天星期六一早，就到了弟弟的Apartment。收拾东西，也把他的电单车寄去巴生。把他的电话线割掉，办手续等。把他一大堆东西搬上老爸的车，最后一个椅子装不下，就跟别人结缘了。

在临走之前，陆弟弟对这个地方依依不舍。我们去吃了当地的小食。有什么好吃的呢？都是一些面、腂条汤、卤肉。

接下来，我们就开车去怡保。首先，就想去看看所谓的民主之树。何谓民主呢？以民为主?马来西亚以后的民主系统还能够健全地保全下去吗？我心里有问题，所以就想来这个地方。问了老爸，和二叔，那个地方在哪里。老爸说那个地方比较偏僻，而且是在后街，不容易找。但是还是被我找到了。

到了当地，还蛮静的。偶尔还有一、两辆车停下来，像我这样在树下拍照，以纪念伤亡惨重的民主系统。

陆弟弟就在树下为世界和平而祈祷。愿他的希望成真。

拍完照片，我们就走人。晚上，到了二叔家。他盛情地招待我们吃一顿饭。而且还有陆弟弟最喜欢吃的食物。第二天一早，我们到了万里望巴杀吃早餐。陆弟弟又吃了他最喜欢的食物。一看他的表情大家就明白了。

吃完早餐，休息了一下。我们就继续上路。大概中午两点才到了弟弟住的新地方。我们一起打扫了屋子，然后把床和衣架弄好了，我就离开了。祝福弟弟在新的地方，有一个新生活。

弟弟的新家，客厅。

厨房，还有二审送的水果。

房间。

弟弟与新家。

得不到的事

2009-03-07T00:10:00.002+08:00

前些时候觉得很无奈，然后又受到同事的影响，她一直问我，问什么人生总是得不到自己要的东西。我一时也不知道要怎么回答她，因为我自己也有这样的感觉，也有几样自己一直想要又得不到的事。

因此，就在自己‘书脸’- Facebook的状况，写上这样的话：
Hai is wondering why and has a lot of questions

然后，就得到老爸这样的回应：

Loke Weng Kong 写道 1:54
In life, religion or politics, the gap between idealism and realities is always there.There is no such thing as perfect or final answer to any question in real life;Even one plus one equal to two is not the only or ‘perfect’ answer, the mathematician will testify to you that when it come to real life!Questions keep on increasing faster than answers found for them..Otherwise, philosophers, thinkers or religion workers will face job cut problems!So, just relax and don't give yourself too many questions !One question one time ....

另外一个朋友给我这样的建议：“要多多体验人生。”有些时候，我个人觉得是在努力了一番之后，又得不到的那种痛苦。要怎样面对，应保持着怎样的态度。个人觉得这个问题比较难回答，而且也很实际。回答得出来，又要做得到。这样才好。

老妈子说要多多努力，改变自己的人生。好的，我会尽力的。

当然，在这些答案之前，我也回答了我的同事。我个人的意见是，应该要做好准备。这样，机会来的时候，我们才能够及时抓住它。也许自己想要得到的，已经悄悄地来到了我们的身旁，有时我们没有留意，或没有准备，因此机会往往就这样溜走了。

因此，个人认为，我们在得不到的时候，还是要努力，随时做好准备。说不定，出口就在转弯的后面。

去了怡保

2009-02-22T19:52:00.005+08:00

上个星期五和星期六上怡保，参加了一个大学朋友父亲的葬礼。我星期五傍晚就到了他的家。他也很安慰，看到我从吉隆坡上来。我们就开始聊天。他就开始讲述父亲是如何去世的，来得也很突然。他也没有什么心理准备。在他父亲的病况日益严重之下，最终还是离开了人间。

他们一家人都是基督教徒。所以星期五晚上就有所谓的宗教仪式，一些牧师就开始带领唱诗歌，朗读圣经，分享经验，还有追思仪式。我的那位大学朋友就上台讲述他平时和父亲的相处，到最后父亲的去世，然后他的心情如何等等。详细的细节这里就不提了。只是听了让人非常心酸，当然在场也有很多人听了都掉泪。

记得当我的爷爷去世的那时候，我的姑妈也有上台分享（也是基督教的仪式）。哇，讲到我感动得忍不住泪水，实在是不行。也许我很容易体会当事人的心情。离别总是让人悲伤的，一般人都很难接受。而对于亲人的思念，也许不只是一年、两年，可能是一辈子。

星期六一早，我接了另外一个槟城来的大学朋友，一起去参加出殡仪式。地点是在Tambun基督教坟场。我的爷爷就是葬在这里，而我那位朋友的爷爷也是在这里，但是我们这么多年都不曾在这里遇见过，因为我来的时候是清明节，他是Easter Day才来的。

然而，我相信我们之间也有一定的缘分吧。也许到一天我们也老了，病得也很严重了，不再为工作打拼了，不再在乎世间的事情了，就要往生了，我们在这坟场再次见面了，我们会有什么话题呢？会不会讲起当年在大学的趣事呢？再好好回顾一下自己所过的人生，然后笑嘻嘻地离开了。

The Curious Case of Benjamin Button

2009-02-18T20:56:00.004+08:00

收到朋友一封短讯,他说:“去看Benjamin Button，很好看，重点介绍。”我就想，其实自己已经下载了。只是还没有看而已。所以前几天就看了这部戏。

这部戏的男演员是当红的帅哥-Brat Pitt。故事说这个人，一出生就是年老相，慢慢的地变得来越年轻，跟大家刚好相反。他一出世就遭到父亲遗弃，住在老人院。由于他越来越年轻，结果就要看着别人在老人院里一个个相续死去。

后来他变得比较“年轻了”，他离开老人院。一个人随着船长到外面闯荡。后来，他爱上了一个有夫之妇。在大战后，那女人留下一张字条，nice to meet you，就这样离开了。Ben第一次尝到了爱情的滋味，却在这样的情况下结束了。

至于船长呢？他跟其他船员在战争中牺牲了。Benjamin很幸运的生存了下来。他和死神是如此的接近。船长的一句话，让我印象深刻，对于生命，他说：“You can be mad as a mad dog at the way things went. You could swear, curse the fates, but when it comes to the end, you have to let go.”在Benjamin父亲去世的时候，这句话又重复了一次。

接下来就是Benjamin跟女主角的爱情戏了，他们自小认识，但是一个太老，一个太年轻。后来，他们的年纪终于在中间相遇了。于是爱得死去活来。也许人们在太年轻的时候，就是不懂得什么叫真正的爱情。要等到失去了，学会了，懂得珍惜了，爱情才会出现吧。

后来，这对情人有了孩子，男主角不得不忍痛割爱，离开女主角。因为他不想让女主角有更多的负担，不想在他变得越来越年轻的时候，要女主角照顾他跟孩子两个人。于是，爱又再次升华了，爱要懂得牺牲，也要懂得在适当的时候，退下来。

后来结局怎样呢？上次我向张国荣描述一部影片的时候，由于好看的部分都讲完了，所以他就很没有瘾。所以这部戏结局，这里就不说了。

重生

2009-02-13T22:19:00.012+08:00

昨天放工之前，我跟我的同事说：“Hi, tonight I am going to play badminton.”同事即刻用一种不可思议的眼神望着我。然后说：“You are crazy.”为什么他会这么说呢？打羽球只不过是一种最普通不过的运动。当然，就是因为我在半年前打羽球的过程中，跌断了锁骨，休息了两个月半。
现在，应该是重出江湖的时候了。

就在晚上七点左右，我就到了球场。很开心看到以前的球友，他们依然很欢迎我回来。就问我的手怎样了，恢复如何等等。我就回答说差不多啦，今天就来试试看。另外一个球友就用广东话跟我讲：“哇，你候势利喔，仲敢来打波。”哈哈。那天他也见到我跌倒。如今，我还是自己站起来了。

首先，上场前一定要热身。热身后，接下来就是正式打实战了。一上场，‘啪’一声，随着我挥拍，打出了第一粒球。接着，在打第二粒。都没问题。然后，第一场球赛就开始了。发现自己的手臂并没有以前那么有力了。也许是太久没有运动，肌肉萎缩的原因。再来，当然是速度还有准确度都有明显的下降。

在比赛的过程中，要试试看自己的实力到了什么程度。首先，就是普通的打球。

然后就是放网前球。

接下来，就是杀球啦。哇哈哈！！！还好。效果还可以，不错。我回来了。

然后，第二场球就跟李健聪拍档。虽然，尽力了还是打不出以前的水准。对方也明显地让我们。谢谢球友们的体谅。接下来第三场，就跟张国荣拍档。当然，大部分取分的地方都由他来解决。我们赢了这一场。

打球结束后，问张国荣：“我今天的表现怎样？”他回了一句：“雄风依旧。”哈哈。谢谢大家的支持。我会好好地努力。

领导特质

2009-02-06T22:21:00.004+08:00

一个领导人之所以为领导人，应为他具有个人的风范、魅力，最主要的还是特质。英文叫Leadership Qualities。某个人具备了与其他人不同的特质，以致他在某个领域上发挥得比别人出色。

有些特质是与生俱来，我们一直都具备的，但是常常被忽略，或是已经被自认为是理所当然的。我们还没有确定这些特质，导致不懂得要怎么发挥。

有些人认为领导人要有领导人的样子。有些人认为作为一个领导人，要什么都会，不懂也要装懂。记得有一年跟老板要办烧烤会，我老板好像跟我一样，什么都不会，要怎么腌制、准备什么材料等都不是很清楚。我问他是不是没有经验，他老实地说，以前都是叫别人做的。他虽然不是什么都会，但是懂得谦虚。谦虚让人觉得比较容易接近。而且，许多领导人，如Teresa修女、甘地、耶稣、还有无上的佛陀。他们都具备了无比谦虚的特质。谦虚不是要觉得自己不如别人，或是觉得自己高高在上。而是在平等的状况之下，懂得尊重别人，少去比较或衡量。

最近，觉得领导人的特质可以好好发挥的话，会在各领域有进步。但是，有些人认为学了领导学之后，可以去领导别人、去影响别人，让别人跟着自己的想法去做。他们时常想要教导别人，教育别人，当别人或追随者跟着自己的话去做，做了又有成就。渐渐地就有越来越喜欢影响别人，越来越膨胀起来。之前就遇到一些类似这样的人，就是在自己的领域有了一些成就，就到处给讲座，无可否认他有自己的优点与值得学习的地方，但是给讲座的时候就会给人一种自大无比，自以为是的感觉。

最后还是希望自己可以发挥一些善良的特质，可以时常保持一颗谦虚的心。网站上当然有很多关于Leadership Qualities的资料。供大家参考。

http://www.hrworld.com/features/top-10-leadership-qualities-031908/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Leadership

态度

2009-02-05T00:13:00.004+08:00

前争子看了一套纪录片，片名叫《态度》。一开头就有这样的对白：“这是我们熟悉的城市，台北，这条车水马龙的路是八德路，也是我们台啤队员每天去练球的必经之路。这条拥挤的路上走着形形色色的人，有摊贩、律师、学生、上班族、修车场老板、服务生，但又有多少人，是真的怀着梦想，坚定努力地走在这条路上？”

这个纪录片是讲这支篮球队，从2003年濒临解散，一直努力到2006年，闯进冠军赛。但是却在总决赛中，以一分之差，被解决了。球员们当场哭了，留下痛苦与失望的泪水。面对失败，他们怎么站起来，吸取教训？过程中，流汗、流泪、流血。除此之外，还有他们球队跟一位球迷的互动，这个球迷也给了他们很大的启示。后来，2007年，他们再次打进SBL的总决赛。这一次，结果怎样呢？

纪录片中把球员们的个人性格，描写得很深刻。还有他们面对人生起起落落的时候，抱着怎样的态度。当然，纪录片中还有球员们投篮与灌篮的动作，有些真是帅呆了。想起自己每天上班和下班，是否应该包着某种态度？如果每一天都是一场球，那我要怎么打呢？我是否也是怀着梦想，坚定地走在这条路上。

小过年

2009-02-03T23:54:00.004+08:00

今天是我公司正式开工的第一天，所以就叫了舞狮来。至于舞狮来干什么呢？简单来讲就是搞热闹，华人的传统新年节目就是舞狮嘛。有舞狮来了，就会保佑这个地方，让它旺起来。对我来讲，鼓声就是大了一点，靠近的话就真的是很吵。

舞狮一开始就从我们公司正门口进来。然后就抛柑给同事们，然后向我们的大老板祝福。在来就是到公司的每一间房，保佑这间公司，让它赚大钱。

最后，到我老板的房间。由于老板不在，我就扮代表，派柑和红包给舞狮。舞狮就把红包给吃掉了。

在临走前，我跟舞狮队拍照。

你家的地址

2009-02-02T20:52:00.002+08:00

在我以前的部落格中，经常出现的人物之一 – 我的缅甸朋友。他今天终于回国了。听他说，他岳父的稻田需要人打理。而且他太太的姐姐要出外做生意，所以他决定回去了。这一去，就真的不回来了。

我竟常不懂得面对一些情况，如搬家、换工、还有离别。去年刚搬家，换工更是差不多每年一次。还有就是离别，要面对好朋友的离开，不懂得要压抑、要释放或是不把它当一回事，继续过我的生活。

在我离开以前，当然是要问电话，地址之类的。他就在纸上写了地址，字迹非常整齐。还问我要不要缅甸文的，我回答说我不会写，所以不用了。而且他说那边的邮差会看英文，那就很好了。

他写完地址后，我发现他没有写门牌号码。只写了他和太太的名字，某某村、某某镇、某某区。我就问他那邮差怎么找到他的家。他竟然回答说邮差认识他们镇上的每一个人。我实在是有点惊讶，那邮差实在是不简单。由于他们家都没有门牌，所以只好认人。如果家住在偏僻一点的话，那邮差就要托船夫送过去。那送信的时间会更久一些。所以他也不给我他乡下的地址了。

如果大家认为马来西亚很落后，跟不上西方国家，这样差、那样不好。那缅甸就更加不行了。因为缅甸比我们国家早独立九年，但是由于多年的内乱，再加上现在军政府的统治，导致他们国家发展得比我们慢很多。

无论如何，先祝福我的朋友，愿他住在幸福的国家，以后过着幸福与快乐的生活。

过年咯

2009-02-02T18:39:00.007+08:00

过年就忘不了老妈子做的新年饼。基本上她每年都做的就是牛油饼、黄梨饼和花生饼，还有近年来才研发成功的German Bisciut。接下来就是一些不懂得怎么分类的饼。总之样样好吃。我和老爸最喜欢的还是花生饼。喜欢香和甜的味道。

再者，老妈子会把家里装饰一番。为了让家里更有新年气息，她会用红包折成小鱼（最近才学会），和小灯笼。然后要我和弟弟们吊起来。我们三个小瓜就很快地赶在年三十晚前把一切搞定，然后上林明吃团圆饭。

在我们三兄弟要回去工作和读书的前一天，我们在家里办了一个烧烤会。首先是老爸和表弟把我们的乒乓桌粘上麻将纸。

我两个可爱的弟弟负责点火。

然后，晚上，大家一起大快朵颐。我们是快乐的一家人。

孩子

2009-01-24T21:12:00.005+08:00

小孩子实在是太可爱了。在他们的身上，时常散发出简单与快乐的气息。在他们的世界里，没有你斗得你死我活的概念，最多是因为抢玩具而引起的纷争，没有必要像大人们那样打战，拼个你死我活。也不会像大人一样，贪得无厌，想要的东西，非要得到不可，不择手段、偷诈拐骗，样样来。小孩也一样会贪心，我问表弟：“你最喜欢吃什么？”表弟会毫不犹豫地说：“KFC。”有时候他会回答我说Pizza Hut。如果吃不到呢？他也一样开心的过生活。如果突然间有得吃，就真的开心得不得了。

这个表弟很特别，怎么特别呢？因为他喜欢和中国茶。哈哈。记得他还是两岁多的时候，就开始陪我喝茶了。真正开始的时候，应该差不多三岁吧。他特别喜欢普洱茶，果然是识货。普洱茶有一种檀木香与樟木香味，不是每个人都能接受这种味道。一般人比较喜欢香气较浓的乌龙茶或茉莉花茶。他喝茶的时候还会喝到“嗉嗉”声，还有一种很好喝的样子。哈哈。至今还会来找我要茶喝。

表弟今年六岁了，去年五岁的时候。他班上有一个女生跟他比较要好的。我们就会笑她是他的女朋友。他也会承认，而且还会害羞。所以我也时不时会来取笑他。直到去年的年尾，那个女生毕业，要上一年级了。（我表弟小她一岁）所以我就问他：“哦，叶嘉雯明年上一年级了，这样你不是见不到她了？”他也好像一点都不担心的样子说：“不用紧，我知道她的家住哪里。她读培材，我以后还会见到她。”表弟的态度果然是潇洒。小孩子是不会因为他的女朋友离开他，而伤心得要死，哭得你死我活。孩子是不会有这种情绪的。当然，他也许不明白为什么要伤心。

也许我也曾经像表弟一样，是个天真可爱的孩子。后来长大了，见到了人心险恶。而且自己渐渐变得更加贪心，更加暴力，然后变成大人了。哈哈哈。恐怖吧！也许有一天，我变回小孩子。在海边和弟弟玩沙，在操场跟爸爸放风筝，还有找妈妈泡牛奶给我喝。

浪漫满屋 Full House

2009-01-21T22:22:00.005+08:00

昨天晚上约了小熊在牛车水见面。至于谁是小熊呢？哦。让她来自我介绍吧。她的部落格在这里。而我们昨晚喝茶的情况，她也有报导了，在这里。（在下半篇）

至于为什么出来喝茶，或者有什么特别的事呢？没有。纯粹聊天。哈哈。首先，我们叫了茶。然后她说要拍照，因为要放上部落格。但是由于灯光的关系，她的相机手机拍得不太清楚，所以还是由我的Canon A470来出手。（Canon数码相机中最简朴的一型）。

首先来个近距离的。

然后来个更加近的。茶杯为主角，茶壶在背后当配角。

接下来就是一连串的话题。至于什么话题呢？答案是秘密。为什么不可以讲？有什么这样神秘？答案就是 - 不可说的秘密。

后来，还有更加可笑的是，小熊竟然以为我的原名叫湘源！OMB – Oh my Buddha。也许是我太融入这个角色，所以原来的名字也变了。也许到后来有一天，我再也记不起自己原来的名字。

随着时间的流逝，店员也渐渐熄灯，暗示客人他们要收档了，我们才离开。

煮意面

2009-01-17T13:04:00.003+08:00

最近心血来潮，突然间想要煮些意面来吃。所以星期一下午放工后就到超市去选购材料。到了KJ的巨人市场，我买了面、蘑菇、番茄、番茄酱还有乳酪粉。回家后，当天傍晚就煮来吃。

第一次煮的时候，把面条煮得太软了，因为上次记得煮面的时候，煮了很久都不熟。结果这次煮太久了。酱料方面还可以，但是还是浓了一点，水分过少，下次可以加一点水。

所以第二天又来了，这次累积了上次的经验，所以看好煮面的时间，还有煮酱料的要点。煮出来的结果呢？哦，还可以，勉强都算好吃了。嘿嘿。味道虽然比较淡了一些（没有加肉类），但还是有很多番茄味，非常可口。

这个星期有四天都在吃意大利面。没办法，单身的生活是比较无聊的，所以要搞一些花样。这个星期的生活还算满意了。

马来西亚羽球公开赛

2009-01-11T22:09:00.008+08:00

昨天很得空，而且风和日丽，就跟林先生一起去看马来西亚羽球公开赛。一去到赛场的时候，还是有人潮，但没有我想象的那么多人。也许是在星期五的时候，马来西亚的双打和女单，都出局了，只剩下李宗伟一个人孤身奋战，大家也不觉得很想看了。这次的票价是RM15，公开座位。虽然我们都坐在赛场的上方，但比赛情况还是看得很清楚的。

在赛场的中间有两个羽球场。其中一个就设满了录影机，是用来拍摄直播的。首先比赛的是混双，其中韩国那对比较强，很快就解决了泰国。反而是印尼这边和丹麦的水准比较接近，要打了三场才分胜负。

接下来就是女单，然后就是大家所期待的比赛-李宗伟先生出场了，他这次半决赛的对手是来自丹麦的皮得盖尔。上个月在沙巴的总决赛，李宗伟轻易的打败了皮得盖尔，所以大家都对比赛的结果心里有数了。

比赛从开始到结束，都少不了热情球迷的欢呼声。我和林先生也是热情的球迷，所以有时候李宗伟打得好的时候就为他鼓掌。林先生更是大声欢呼，好好感受一下现场的热情气氛。还有就是坐在另一个方向的球迷们更是大喊：“Malaysia Boleh！”想不到这个口号喊了这么久至今还有人喊。

根据林先生说，在这一刻，马来西亚的人民又团结了。大家不会因为那宗伟是华人就不去支持他。我觉得这样很好。在这场比赛中，李宗伟自己也有自己的压力。而且他还是马来西亚唯一的希望。不可能马来西亚公开赛的领奖台全部站着外国人吧。所以他也尽力了。经过了三场比赛，战胜了皮得盖尔。

其余的比赛，都是外国人打。所以我们也没有特别支持某一队了。比赛结束后，我们先回林先生家，然后吃晚餐。临走前，还要林先生为我拍照留念。

和妈妈的对决

2009-01-08T22:29:00.006+08:00

上次圣诞节回关丹的时候，有和父母亲打乒乓球。说来乒乓球好像变成了我们家族的运动。二叔已经是霹雳州的州手，现在每年都有出战全国赛。他刚在工作上退休，现在还当了全职的乒乓球教练。母亲是关丹代表啦，这两年还有打全彭赛。父亲就在自己的球会中拿冠军了。

追根究底，自己开始打乒乓的时候，就是小学吧。记得父亲那时候会驾摩托，载我进他的公司的食堂里打乒乓。父亲那时候在他的公司也已经算了不起了，但还有一两个对手吧。还记得小时候甚至把吃饭的桌子拿来打乒乓。那桌子很长，我们在中间放一块长板当网，就这样开始打起来了。当然，那时候只求把球打过网就算了，并没有特意要把球练好。所以自己的球技二十年来都没有进步。

就去年，就有跟李健聪和鸟医生去他们的大学打乒乓。还有跟林先生在公寓楼下打过。真是开心。

自己比较能够控制那粒乒乓球应该是近期吧。因为了解了打乒乓要用拍的角度，准确地击中球的部位，这样才能够准确地把球打过去。因为球碰到桌子弹起来后，有分上升球，最高点，和下降球。不同的落点要配合不同的角度才能够把球打回去。明白了这点后，再加上实战，终于能够把球打得比较好了。

就在圣诞节那天，和母亲练球。自己的锁骨还没完全康复，所以也不敢打得太过火。但是，也有用力了。就在我们练习互相拉球的时候，突然间，我用了我的绝招，拉了个弧圈球。基本上这个动作要配合脚步和腰部的转动，还有当然是挥拍了。这招厉害了，如果健聪是对手的话，那就结束了。所以我也理所当然的，出了这招后，就摆好Ending Post。（如图：王励勤示范的这招）

但是，要知道老妈子的实力并不是我想象中的那么简单。就在我得意洋洋的时候，她竟然可以把球挡回过来，我要拉第二粒球都来不及了。果然是低估了老妈子的实力。还有一次，她突然间用力把球打过来，那粒球竟然快到离谱。就这样，终于见识到了老妈子真正的实力。（不怪得小时候被打的时候那么痛。）当然，也是我第一次以大人的身体来跟父母亲打球。因为以前是小孩子的身体。

现在大概是大人对决大人了。虽然我们的乒乓的水准还是差这么一段。何况我也没有练球。但是，希望有一天可以把球练好。那一天，我们实力相当的时候。来一场真正的对决。那时候，我要变成“超级赛亚人”，再加上“写轮眼”。这样也许就会赢了吧！哈哈！！

迎接新的一年

2009-01-05T19:41:00.005+08:00

嘿嘿。大家好。又是新的一年了。时间匆匆地过，袖子不带走一片雨水…就这样就告别了2008年。就把2008年总结一下。

事业总算有些起色。爱情还是保持不变，（还是单身）。身体健康下滑，锁骨断了一根，康复当中。宗教情操有些下滑的迹象，对生命的看法加广。对社会与处世态度有改善。如果把以上的层面加加减减，给自己八十分。还算不错啦。（怎么给自己打分数了）…

在12月31号这天，我们家主办了House Warming + 倒数晚会。我们一家人之外，嘉宾们就包括了森美、鸟医生、刁夫妇、林夫妇、龙猫、佩芬和周杰荣的女友-阿面小姐。欢迎大家。

那天晚上的主题是：“阳光宅男2009倒数晚会”。原因是要配合周杰伦的歌。但是后来表姐反对，因为她一天到晚都不家，很难配合。哈哈。

由于大家为了省功夫，就来个Pok Luck晚餐。也就是自己准备食物。我个人就煲了一锅放了过多红枣的老黄瓜汤。（果然对烹饪没天分）其中比较有特色的就是林先生的鸡蛋蒸猪肉，哈哈。不是啦，而是他弄的糕点有点像罢了。还有过咸的炒冬粉，基本上很不错了。还有表姐买的雪糕，和阿刁买的肯德基。

在大饱朵颐后，李先生带动大家玩天使与魔鬼的游戏。基本上这是一种测试人心险恶的游戏。游戏的基本原则就是要你讲骗话来保护自己与陷害别人，以这种方式来凸显人性的险恶。我第一次玩这个游戏的时候是在第十八届全国大专佛学生活营。非常惭愧，在这种神圣的营，玩这种游戏。（鼓励人们讲骗话）。还好有了上次的经验，这次玩的时候也不必逼自己讲骗话。所以证明了一点，在这个社会上立足，是不必讲骗话来保护自己的。说实话能够让你赢得信任，赢得道德，赢得友谊。

每个人都有善良与邪恶的一面，也有自己的优点与缺点。记得刚看过的那本书《The Five Secrets You must Discover Before You Die》，其中一个长老有这么一个忠告：“不要只专注别人的缺点，多看别人的优点。当身边的人都是好人，那好人就不会陷害你。不要去妒嫉别人，因为你也有你的长处与祝福。”个人觉得这句话很受用。

接下来时间差不多到午夜十二点了。大家就一起把新年的愿望写下，然后来个简单的游戏与约定。朋友们，谢谢大家的陪伴。大家一起为了自己的人生努力吧！

真的幸福吗？

2008-12-27T20:50:00.005+08:00

自己真的幸福吗？我的同事会跟我抱怨，说自己真的太穷了。样样都比不上别人。别人都穿者美丽的衣服，驾名贵的车子。住豪华的房子，养洋狗。别人什么都好，好像自己什么都比不上别人。

记得自己在异乡旅游的时候，当我走在比较偏僻的小路，就发现天桥下睡着一些人。他们用很厚的睡袋、棉被或厚纸皮盖着身体，就在天桥下休息。这时候是冬天，天气虽然不是很冷，但是早上可以冷到8度或以下的。天底下，还是有人没有家，还有人无家可归。还有人睡在没有天花板的地方。

根据联合国统计，全球大约有一亿的人口无家可归，而且大部分是妇女和儿童。他们通常面对的问题，如：没有医药设施、没有教育机会、受他人歧视、很难找工作、没有通讯设备、容易成为暴力的受害者。

在马来西亚，也许我真的很穷。因为实在是太多有钱人了。但是，幸好父母亲都让我在屋子里长大，还搞到我肚腩都比别人大。然后我就一直活到现在，每当睡醒的时候，睁开眼睛还可以看到天花板。